How we create it together

A completely personal ceremony doesn’t appear out of thin air.

It comes from conversations, stories, ideas, questions, a little bit of digging — and plenty of listening.

Here’s what happens between that first message and the moment you’re standing together on your wedding day.

Say hello

Send me a message and tell me a little about yourselves, your wedding date if you know it, and how you’d prefer me to contact you.

I’ll come back to you for a quick, informal chat so we can establish the basics and arrange a time to meet.

The vibe check

Then we meet properly.

Usually somewhere relaxed, like a coffee shop — and the coffee is on me. Or we can make our first meeting online if that makes you more comfortable.

We’ll talk about the two of you, what you’re planning, what you definitely want, what you definitely don’t want, and any ideas already bouncing around in your heads.

There’s no hard sell.

It’s simply our chance to find out whether I’m the right celebrant for you — and whether you feel comfortable trusting me with your story.

If we’re a good fit, your booking payment secures the date.

Tell me your story

Next, I’ll send you a questionnaire.

This gives me the broad picture: how you met, your relationship, the people who matter to you, the things that make you laugh, the experiences that shaped you and what marriage means to you.

You don’t need to write an autobiography.

It simply gives us somewhere to begin.

Let’s build your ceremony

Closer to the wedding, we’ll meet again and really get into the detail.

This is where we decide what your ceremony will actually contain.

Your story. Your vows. Rings. Readings. Music. Handfasting. Ring warming. Family involvement. Moments of remembrance. Something completely different.

Or none of those.

We keep what means something to you and leave out what doesn’t.

I turn it into a ceremony

Once we’ve done the planning, I take everything you’ve given me and start writing.

Not by filling your names into a template.

I write your ceremony around your voices, your personalities and your story.

The aim is that when you read it, you recognise yourselves in it.

We get it right together

I’ll send you the ceremony to review.

You can tell me what you love, what you want changed, what needs more of you in it — or what needs taking out completely.

Then we refine it together.

It isn’t finished because I say it’s finished. It’s finished when you’re happy that it feels like yours.

I talk to the other people who need to know

As the day approaches, I can liaise with your venue and the people involved in making the ceremony happen — your photographer, musicians, DJ or other suppliers where needed.

We make sure everyone understands the plan, the timings and any important moments they need to be ready for.

You shouldn’t have to spend your wedding morning coordinating everybody yourself.

Wedding Day!

By this point, the ceremony is written, the details are agreed and everyone who needs to know what’s happening knows what’s happening.

So there’s only one thing left to do.

You get married.

And I get the privilege of standing in front of the people who matter most to you and telling your story.